Live Without Regrets
Words by Katherine C. Eustaquio
Published in Total Fitness Magazine July 2011 issue
Think logically.
Look outside of yourself and pinpoint what it is that you actually regret. Is it a feeling, an action, a missed opportunity, or a self-induced lament?
Admit your mistakes.
You may not have total control over your life but remember what Oprah Winfrey said: “You are responsible for your life. You can't keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on.”
Go on, grieve.
Toxic relationships are hard to let go thinking maybe things will get better if you just stick around longer. Personally, the best tactic is to give it all you’ve got. Follow your trails of your broken heart and grieve. If you don’t allow yourself to grieve, suppressed emotions can balloon into something bigger and come crashing on you at the same time. Go on and grieve so that when you finally raise the white flag, you’re confident that you have done everything that you can.
Look for an outlet.
Most writers write best when they’re depressed. That’s because angst is a good motivation for writing. If you’re going through a tough phase, look for a healthy outlet and channel all your negative feelings out.
Learn to forgive.
The hardest person to forgive is yourself. It’s a feat that puts a toll on the mind and body but you really have to give yourself a break at times. Keep in mind that even if you have to do it all over again, you’ll probably end up making the same mistake. Remember, you were a different person back then.
“Keep moving forward.”
The hardest step to take is the first one but when you’ve done it, everything else follows. Reaching out to friends for help can offer you a new perspective on things. Try to list down the things you’ve learned in the ordeal to help you pinpoint what went wrong in the first place. Stay positive and inspired by knowing that you may not be able to change what you did, but you can definitely change the way you feel about it.
Published in Total Fitness Magazine July 2011 issue
Every day, we make decisions and with each decision come the inevitable ‘what-ifs’ that could last for 5 minutes or 5 years. Reflection is a good way to avoid making the same mistakes in your present and future. However, wallowing on ill feelings end up in missed opportunities and suppressed happiness. Every person has a list of life’s regrets but that doesn’t mean you have to put your life on hold. Don’t let regrets live your life for you. It’s high time you act on how to free yourself of these burdens. Here are some suggestions on how to do it:
Think logically.
Look outside of yourself and pinpoint what it is that you actually regret. Is it a feeling, an action, a missed opportunity, or a self-induced lament?
Admit your mistakes.
You may not have total control over your life but remember what Oprah Winfrey said: “You are responsible for your life. You can't keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on.”
Go on, grieve.
Toxic relationships are hard to let go thinking maybe things will get better if you just stick around longer. Personally, the best tactic is to give it all you’ve got. Follow your trails of your broken heart and grieve. If you don’t allow yourself to grieve, suppressed emotions can balloon into something bigger and come crashing on you at the same time. Go on and grieve so that when you finally raise the white flag, you’re confident that you have done everything that you can.
Look for an outlet.
Most writers write best when they’re depressed. That’s because angst is a good motivation for writing. If you’re going through a tough phase, look for a healthy outlet and channel all your negative feelings out.
Learn to forgive.
The hardest person to forgive is yourself. It’s a feat that puts a toll on the mind and body but you really have to give yourself a break at times. Keep in mind that even if you have to do it all over again, you’ll probably end up making the same mistake. Remember, you were a different person back then.
“Keep moving forward.”
The hardest step to take is the first one but when you’ve done it, everything else follows. Reaching out to friends for help can offer you a new perspective on things. Try to list down the things you’ve learned in the ordeal to help you pinpoint what went wrong in the first place. Stay positive and inspired by knowing that you may not be able to change what you did, but you can definitely change the way you feel about it.
